You just started to talk to someone online, maybe on a dating site and now you want this relationship to grow so that your person of interest will agree to meet you in person one day. The problem is, your date lives in another town, maybe far away. Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time.
Here are some quick growing tips.
- Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you
regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be
considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.
- Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is
too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So, don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.
- Respect each other’s privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or
digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the
information in confidence.
- Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting
cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Maybe you both have a gaming system and you can play a coop game together (hint: it won’t help you if you show off your Call of duty skills and kill this special person every 2 seconds. Offline – if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting
cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).
Mend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.
Establishing Online Dating Relationships:
Online dating can be fun. But don’t neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.
Protect Your Computer
Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the
Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online.
Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend.
In addition, search “online dating services” in your preferred search engine and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.
Ok, I hope you learned a few things or maybe you’re like “That was nothing new” – either way, take care. Protect your computer – and yourself – with the correct tools and knowledge!
Needless to say that it’s always a bad idea if someone is starting to ask your for money after a while. We all heard the sad stories, “They’re about to turn my lights off”, “I have to feed my kids”, “I have to pay my rent or I get kicked out” – it sounds harsh but DON’T DO IT!