You made it, you asked somebody out and now I’m sure you want your date to have fun and you want to have fun, too! You want to ensure that the conversation is interesting and stimulating to both of you.
Body language always speaks first in any conversation. When you are
confident your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile,
and you become more animated. When you are tense or not at ease with
yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your
mouth will barely break a smile, and your eyes will be searching elsewhere
in the room. Knowing this will allow you to convey confidence with your body language.
At some point you have to start to talk to your date and this is when it’s getting complicated for many people. Your verbal dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how able you are to create a conversation that your partner enjoys.
The question is HOW to create an interesting conversation.
Your dating conversation will be made up of you both asking and answering questions. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun.
If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you. If you are
evasive or less than honest when answering her questions, she is going to
ditch you quicker.
Questions are powerful. Funny thing is that when a person is asked a direct
question they somehow feel obligated to answer it.
One of the biggest mistakes is to ask a question that your date could answer with a simple “yes” or “no”. Here is an example: “Do you like movies?” No matter what the answer is, it’s your turn again within 2 seconds. A better questions would be: “What movies do you like?”
Ask questions where a simple yes or no is not an option.
Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first
“What do you love to do in your spare time?”
“What do you particularly enjoy about that?”
“If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?”
By asking these questions you will cause your date to recall pleasant past
experiences and share them with you.
This can increase your chances significantly.
One last thing, look at the picture of this post: “What are you grateful for?” is actually a great question to ask, the answer will tell you a lot about your date.