First date

Somebody asked on Facebook “What is the most important question to ask on a first date?” Here are some of the answers: “What shift you work?” “Are you married?” “Have you ever been in jail?” “Do you believe in God?” “What do you want for dessert?” (Really? Before that youContinue Reading

Make it easy

People often play “hard to get”. Dating shouldn’t be a game, if you are serious about being in a long-term relationship there is nothing wrong with making it easy for the other person. No need to play games, make it clear that you are interested in going on a date.Continue Reading

First move

Who is supposed to make the first move? The man or the woman? Old school is out, there is nothing wrong for a woman to make the first move especially if it’s a woman who likes to take charge in other areas of her life. Be who you are. AsContinue Reading


A very common mistake is to make a lot of assumptions. First of all, people don’t see you necessarily the way you see yourself (either way, the good and the bad). Instead of making assumptions simply ASK. Making assumptions can be a huge turnoff and lead to a lot ofContinue Reading

Short and sweet – don’t look for perfection! You won’t find it, it’s really that simple. That doesn’t mean you should settle for less and ignore possible red flags. Ask yourself, what are your absolute “heck no!” things. You don’t want to be with a cheating liar, no doubt aboutContinue Reading


I said this before, just be yourself, don’t try to pretend to be someone else. If you are a confident person then you have nothing to prove. Only an arrogant person believes that (s)he has to prove things and that’s because of his/her lack of confidence. In their opinion arrogantContinue Reading

Stop chasing people! Seriously, stop chasing people! Chasing someone is NOT how dating works. Try to become more interesting to other people instead. You want to find someone you can actually connect with. Be available, allow people to connect with you. People’s time is valuable, don’t waste it on thingsContinue Reading

Many people setup a date, get excited for the big day but then in the evening, after work, many bring “work” to the date meaning they might be stressed from work, a fight with the boss or colleagues, stress, frustration, anger – often that reflects in how the evening isContinue Reading

As obvious as it is, keep your eyes open when you’re looking for a new relationship, not only online on dating sites or in dating apps. You can meet good people in unusual places. Even when you’re not all dressed up and you might look a little “messy”, you areContinue Reading

So you are meeting somebody for the first time after getting to know each other on a dating site and / or texting for a while. Often at this time there is some kind of familiarity though you’ve never met before. When you finally see the other person live andContinue Reading